how to support your loved one during a medication abortion
Unsure what to do when someone you love is going through an abortion?
Make it stand out.
First and foremost, Don’t assume you know how to help Even if you’ve been in the same position.
Evaluate your resources and what you are able to provide.
People can find this time stressful, so alleviating some of the mental toll can be helpful.
If they don't know what they need or feel uncomfortable asking for help, providing them with a list of things you can do to help can be an easier way for people to make decisions.
logistics
Ask if they have a safe space to take the pills. Can they want to stay with you or can you help with the cost of a hotel? Do they need a safe place to have the pills mailed if they are afraid someone will intercept packages?
offering to do some errands can sometimes be a relief just to have one less thing on their plate.
Abortions can be expensive, even if they use insurance. Ask if they want help looking for community resources to help with cost (www.abortionfunds.com).
Offer to provide childcare, bus pick ups, or distract the kids for a while.
Can you pick up their shift at work so they can have an extra day off?
Heating pads and back rubs can be helpful for cramps.
comfort
ask them if they want you to be with them during the process.
The pills sometimes take a while to start working so plan on being around for several hours at least.
Some people prefer distraction while others may want to process and talk about how they are feeling.
If they don’t want company during the process, offer to be ‘on call’ for emergencies or in case they need something picked up.
Bring them their favorite comfort foods, or tea and other fluids.
Some side effects of the medication can be nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea so gentle foods like crackers or toast are a good starting place. fluids, like broth or electrolyte drinks, help your loved one replace lost fluids.
An abortion can feel like a really bad period; the body is going through the same process as shedding the lining of the uterus. So if you know what their menstrual comforts are, offer those.